A few weeks ago my friend and I were talking about how she feels inadequate when she reads blogs. This was not the first time I had heard this comment. I've heard "I wonder how they 'do it all'?" or "is their life really that perfect?" and others. I'll be honest that I often struggle with feelings of envy or inadequacy but, generally, I feel inspired by blogging. That's why I continue to do it.
As I talked to my friend about why blogging made her feel bad, it all boiled down to this one thought. She said, "I see a post about a cute craft or something they made and I think, 'I need to do that too' but when I try to do it, I just don't want to." That's when it occurred to the both of us - she doesn't like doing crafts. And here's the real kicker - that's okay. "Crafting" in this case is interchangable with cooking, sewing, decorating your house, photography, etc. but the real point here is that we shouldn't feel like we need to do something just because someone else is. We can appreciate that someone's cute skirt refashion project turned out really well without feeling like we aren't as great unless we do something equally as "talented".
During our conversation a few things occured to me. Blogging is a wonderful thing and it's a great way for a lot of people to showcase their talents. I love blogs that show design tricks, crafting tutorials and beautiful photography and I admire the bloggers who share them. The problem with this showcase of talents is that people who don't have tangible talents are sometimes left feeling burdened with "I'm not good enough" because they don't have an outlet to express their talent of listening, compassion, friendship or thoughtful service.
No one's life is perfect. If anyone knows that, it's me. There's a reason why most bloggers like to share the best parts of their days, homes and lives. It's because those parts make them happy and, in turn, make their readers happy and the positive comments we receive from readers make us all feel valued. When we read about someone's incredible kitchen makeover (my personal blog envy) or the picture-perfect play house for their beautiful children I think we need to focus on how to be happy with ourselves and the place our lives are in right now. If creating and crafting makes you happy, then do it. And if you're interested in blogging about it, do it. But never feel like you have to live up to something that you think someone can do better than you.