October 29, 2008

playing nice

as I've mentioned before, blogs are something I'm incredibly grateful for. they've enabled thousands of people to become acquainted with my charming sister-in-law, helped that same sister-in-law's sister keep interested readers updated on her progress and brought us incredible design, delicious food (shameless self-promotion) and general entertainment during our routine days. in short, blogs rock.

lately, however, I've been hurt by a few anonymous bloggers. too many self-proclaimed "followers" of nienie have said horrible things in comments to many of my family members.

most of you (and I mean 99%) have been wonderfully sensitive to our family's circumstances and thoroughly thoughtful. I'm encouraged by how kind and generous people are. this has been a hard, long ride for our family (and the road is still very long). most of you readers have been fantastic by organizing garage sales, hosting fundraisers, sending cards and letters, attending balloon launchings and carnivals, mailing paper flowers and pretty posters, publicizing silent auctions on your blogs, donating meals, reading articles and attending concerts. I could go on (feeling very humble and very thankful).
if you care about stephanie and profess to being inspired by her way of living, please understand that criticizing her sister, sister-in-law, cousin and/or other family members is entirely contrary to the "way she lives". stephanie has a kind spirit with confidence and beauty to match. she would never say a mean thing. and if you don't believe me, read this post here.

as some of you may have noticed, I do not allow anonymous comments on my blog. aside from the occasional "less than computer savvy" commenter who doesn't have an account (mom?), I think it's cowardly to use the "anonymous" ability to say nasty things. some kinder, more confident people (like cjane) brush aside those mean comments so I guess that makes me a whimp or something else. what I'm trying to say is the same constant life lesson for every situation, every case, every moment: "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". to those of you who live by this rule . . . thank you. I love you.

on a MUCH happier note, oliver gets to stay here a while! yipee! he and I snuggled up on the couch last night while watching halloweentown (yes). needless to say, christian is thrilled (and so is cousin jack - below)! we're all terribly grateful.

oh! and if you want to see the fantastic video of claire and jane's golden slumbers performance at the mindy gledhill concert (and you know you do) click here.

90 comments:

  1. well put. prayers are with ya'll.

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  2. I'm sad that others have been unkind. There is no place for that in this world. I just came across your blog and I love it. One thing I love about both of NieNie's families is how close you are. You can tell that you really love each other because you take care of one another. (plus - I love your signature - so cute)

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  3. Oh goodness - I just sent you an etsy-convo before heading over to happen upon this! It's baffling to me how someone might be able to be cruel in such a time as this - I can't even being to imagine what was said. You are strong and blessed w/a balanced, positive mind. Pay it no heed - that 99% you spoke of DEFINITELY the bad. ;) xo

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  4. EDIT: "...that 99% you spoke of DEFINITELY outweighs the bad"... my where did my WORDS go?! lol

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  5. I am so sorry to hear about the mean things people have been writing. I had read that this was happening on some of your families blogs and was so dispirited to read that. There are so many people trying to direct happiness, love, caring, faith, hope, and countless prayers towards your entire family, especially Stephanie and Christian. Why do people feel the need to be mean when there is a family doing their best to deal with a terrible accident?

    I know it is not my fault, but I still want to say I am sorry on behalf of all of those people who left an ugly comment. I will say a prayer for them that maybe they will learn to be more sensitive and try to be respectful of other peoples feelings.

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  6. Nicely articulated! MORE LOVE, less mean!

    (((HUGS)))

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  7. I have to admit that when I first started reading blogs I was a "stalker". The blogs I read were so personal and I felt like I was doing something bad by reading something from someone I didn't know. The more I read the more comfortable I became. It took me months before I even left a comment (not anonymously, mind you!). I do believe that there are true "blog stalkers" whose sole intention is to hurt. I agree with you that if someone cannot leave their comment without leaving their name then they don't need to comment. Please keep doing what you do because you are right, 99% of us LOVE IT!!!

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  8. thank you commenters! I know we don't know each other personally, but I love each of you! thanks for bringing happy, uplifting comments to my blog.

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  9. The first time I got a mean comment by someone I called Stephanie to ask if she has ever gotten a mean comment, or in her case, email. She said, "Oh yeah. I just ignore it and I will never go private." She was so kind and helped me feel better and to not take it personal. I love her and can't believe people are so thoughtless and rude to others.

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  10. I read all of your families posts and am constantly reminded of the true love of family - good times, bad times, all the time. I have family like this and thank God each and every day for the love of my family. God bless all of you. I only hope those with such mean comments keep quiet.

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  11. I like how you said all that. I agree with you about the anonymous. I don't really understand people using it but that's ok. Basically you should not even be having to deal or say any of that but.... I guess that's why it's even more important to do what your family is doing so others may have a revelation to what is behind it all. Your faith in God.
    Wendy

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  12. This very day I was thinking to myself how selfishly I wanted Christian and Stephanie to be my neighbor until and through the millanium! Not because I would be over at her house every day or out with she and Christian every weekend. We would probably never spend a holiday together nor do we talk on the phone. I almost did a cartwheel when I read that Oliver stayed! Perplexed by my own thoughts, I mentioned to a wiser friend of mine these things. In her wisdom she said, we love them so deeply because you love who you serve. It's true. Bound forever. Then I realized why Stephanie loves people so much... because she serves us! You are so lucky to have eachother. I know you've missed the kids too. I'm so sad that people have been critical of you or your sisters. What a shame. Know that you are loved and prayed for daily.
    God Bless.

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  13. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart on your openness and sharing your personal life with all of us. I have been reading several of your families entries and it has given me so much hope and a feeling of joy because you are not scared to share your faith and your feelings. I often wonder why people sometimes have to be so mean and I come to the conclusion that its usually something they are lacking in their lives that makes them lash out.

    I continue to pray for all of you. You have been an inspiration to me by showing love and faithfullness.

    Blessings,
    Julie

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  14. I always read, but have never commented...I suggest you simply ignore those negative, anonymous comments. Delete them and forget them. I've learned, through experience, that giving them any sort of attention just makes their day because they then know that they have gotten under your skin. Sad but true.

    I find a lot of hope in reading your family's story.

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  15. The Golden Rule is taught in our home from the first moments. Kindness should be practiced and in times of strife that kindness is needed even more.

    I hope you can brush aside any cruelty and know that you are all appreciated.

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  16. Hey! I'm a fairly new visitor to your blog (found via cjane) but I just wanted to say that you write wonderfully and with such compassion. I cannot believe that anyone would say hurtful things at a time like this. Sadly, there will always be people willing to bring others down to make themselves feel better.

    x

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  17. I read some of those awful comments on cjane this week that were directed at both Christian and Nie's sisters. Those comments reflect on the bad place the anonymous commenter is in their own family relationships I think. To accuse members of a family who have so fully and obviously supported each other in tragedy of such icky things takes someone in a bad mental state. Keep that in mind as you press delete, and a mental flip of the bird probably wouldn't be too sinful either!

    Your family's good news this week is wonderful to hear. Have fun with Ollie!

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  18. Hi, I don't have a blog, nor will I probably ever....but a friend of mine started a blog and I was hooked on reading her's....then I ventured onto other blogs and am HOOKED!!! I kept seeing CJane and NieNie on several peoples blogs, I was curious and finally clicked on them. I have followed their stories ever since that day. It's the first thing I check every morning when I get to work.

    I know it's hard, but please ignore all of the negative comments.

    God Bless you and all of your family. I keep ALL of you in my prayers....and I think of y'all often every day.

    Lorena

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  19. I just wanted to say thankyou for opening up. I can't imagine what you are all going through but I know you are all incredibly blessed.
    I went to school with Peter and took piano lessons with a few of the girls when we were children. As I read your post I just froze and actually said outloud, "please don't go private". I know weird, but I know personally I am a better person because of the examples of so many of you involved in this situation. It has touched my life for the better.
    May Heavenly Father continue to bless you all.

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  20. Please remember for every one bad comment there are hundreds of people silently loving each post from you and all of your family. I pray for your family often and you are all in my thoughts.
    PS Since your Peanut Butter Popcorn Post I have made it twice. Can I say dangerous!!!!

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  21. I can't even imagine that someone would have any negative feelings about this let alone say it. I'm so grateful for the inspiration that I've recieved from your whole family (Clark's included). Thank you for sharing this incredible experience with those you don't know.

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  22. Hi there,

    I've commented on your blog once before - I love the way you write. It makes me sad to hear that people would say mean things to you or anyone in your family. I don't know your family, but everything I've seen of you ALL has been just lovely and so inspiring.

    I too have often felt intrusive reading the blogs of people I don't know personally, but at the same time I am so grateful to CJane and others who kept us updated on Stephanie and Christian's progress.

    I guess this is just a long way of telling you that I really appreciate your family's willingness to reach out to those of us in the internet world despite the meanies out there! Thank you for doing that.

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  23. I am so sorry that you have had negative comments. For anyone who feels that they need to share a negative thought I am here to say...YOU ARE WRONG! Please know that with negative comments come negative feelings and as you would obviously know this sweet family doesn't need negative anything in their lives. Please follow the example of the other 99% and be positive! Positive= Nie & Christian and ALL of their loving family and friends. Thank Lizzy for being who you are and thank you for blogging faithfully!

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  24. Hi Lizzy. I have been following Nie since before the crash, but this is the first comment I've ever left, anywhere. I never know what to write, really.
    I am the oldest daughter of twelve kids who grew up in blessed Mesa, AZ. (Yea big families, huh?!) So we have a little in common.
    I follow the story because to me it's all about family, community, love and faith. These things are so important to me. In a world where these values can be looked down on, I love checking in with the Clarks and Nielsons to know that there are people who care about what really matters. And it works.
    Keep your chin up.

    P.S. I went on a Pioneer Trek with the Ballards in your Halloween party photos. Is this a small world or what?!

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  25. Oh my gosh, sometimes I wonder what goes through people's mind that makes them think that writing rude comments is okay. A total lapse in good judgment.

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  26. While I am sadly not surprised at the news of any mean comments you all might have received, I am still outraged. You, the Clark/Nielson family, are truly the salt of the earth and the most tremendous group of people I have ever come across.
    Please know that we, the 99%, hold you and the rest of the bunch near to our hearts and will continue to keep you all in our prayers.
    Enjoy Ollie, keep your head up and know that you are loved.
    & Have a blessed day!!!

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  27. You shouldn't even read those, just delete them and do not even dignify them with your time. These are people who want attention be it negative or positive. Don't you even think that what they say are true(!) Shame on them.

    That said, I love to read your blog and think you are spot on - so don't change a thing.

    Nance (for Dozer, Dottie and Cooper)

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  28. Liz, thanks for not going private and letting the "bad ones" win. Keep doing what you are doing.

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  29. I am a new reader...and unfortunately only knew of any your blogs after the accident. I have to say that I have been touched by the lives you share, and motivated to improve and change in many aspects. Thank you for sharing what you do-

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  30. Lizzy,
    You too are a beautiful and inspirational writer!
    I am so happy that Ollie got to stay with you guys!
    My thoughts and prayers will be with your family always!
    Enjoy your time with Ollie and Christian!

    Love from Oregon

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  31. How could someone not love the Clarks and the Nielsons!?! You all are SO inspiring, loving, just a pleasure to read about everyday! Thank you for sharing in this very personal experience. Sending prayers from Independence, MO!

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  32. you are all seriously SO great (sounds a little like a blog I love)! anyway, I just wanted to say thank you to each and every one of you!

    susan, your "mental flip of the bird comment" made me laugh out loud. thanks.

    bk@ashcroft, I am anti-private blogs so don't you worry! I won't be going private!

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  33. In grade school my husband taught his sister to punch a bully in the nose and his mom about died when she did it. On the third day of school an obnoxious boy wouldn't leave my daughter alone, she came home telling me what happens when you choke someone. While its sort of funny that kids lose control enough to fight, how silly it is for someone to waste energy expressing negative emotions to your wonderful family during this trying time. I love that you are standing up for those you love with grace. Go away bullies, you all are too busy to worry about their trite words anyway. Keep loving that adorable Nielson family and hug yourself too, we love you and adore you all.

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  34. Isn't it too bad when some people have to ruin it for the rest of us? I hope you can avoid the downers in the future- heaven knows you all have enough on your plate! LOVED the video- how darling. Stephanie is going to treasure that - what a wonderful keepsake for the family. Enjoy your time with Oliver- what a nice treat!

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  35. Somehow i missed any negative comments (i'm glad). At the same time I am surprised you have had to put up with that kind of baloney. Let's not let a couple of bad apples ruin the whole basket of joy. (((hugs))) to you sweet girl. xox

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  36. I am so sad this happening. I just worry that any negative could come of this. I am not a "popular" blogger, but I have had "mean" comments about interventions I do with my son who has Autism. I just delete and move on. It is my personal blog and I have met some cool people by not going private. I just keep that eternal perspective, and negative stuff doesn't penetrate as easily. I have to wonder that maybe it creeps your family out-that so many are waiting to hear more awesome stories from Nie relatives. I have to say, I was not always a blog hopper, but I have gotten some awesome decorating and cooking ideas from it. So I say hop or stalk on. Sending Good vibes your way!

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  37. I am with you on the anonymous-I don't accept them either. Maybe I am not kind of enough, I am not sure! I have read NieNie Dialogues for awhile now as well as Cjane and have been inspired by both. Your family has been just as inspiring as we have prayed and hoped and wished for recoveries and fast healing for a couple we have never met. Thank you for being willing to share of yourselves-your time in blogging, your feelings, and the amazing family that you are with the fellow bloggers that love you.
    (And shame on the nasty commenters-maybe they should try niceness, then they wouldn't have to be anonymous because they would be liked! Sorry you have had to deal with things like that when you have been so willing to share...)
    Take care!
    Janelle

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  38. Okay, so I am a HOG today on your comment section. I have celebrated most of the day since Ollie is staying for a little while. Weird, I know... (I don't even plan on seeing him while he is here... and he would think it was odd if I hugged him when I did! Funny- ey?) But I thought about something else... Thursday before Steph and Christian were in their accident I was talking to Stephanie about some "neighborhood issues"... She said this of a misunderstanding, "you don't have a mean bone in your body and neither do I." Now, we can talk later about my faults, but I know it to be true that she doesn't have a mean bone in her body. So I can attest to that fact. And nobody can tell it more like it is than a family member. So... thought of the day. NICE MATTERS!
    Sorry to be a blog hog twice today. I don't usually post comments, I just stalk several times a day! LOVE YOU TO DEATH...

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  39. Girl, check you out! 40 comments!


    Court has sent me some of the strange emails---bow howdy!

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  40. I cannot even imagine what people are leaving unkind remarks about; all there is is love, kindness, endurance and faith. You and all of yours exhibit all of this and even more as you reach out to all of us and share your hope, pain...and even recipes. You all are the best! Joy, happiness and continued blessings to all of you. Your Halloween party was the best. May we all come next year, even if it is more low key? :)

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  41. hi..Im Melissa's (lee) good friend. I was talking to her the other day about the rude comments on her blog...what the Poop is going on? I soooo dont get it. And Im sure you dont either.

    So, I just wanted to say THANKS for still giving the updates, and not giving up or giving in to the weird,crazy and rude people of this world.

    Someday it WILL come to bite them in the bum

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  42. I simply want to say thank you to you and your family for sharing your story and inspiring so many people. I am forever changed by your story and grateful for everything that I have been blessed with.

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  43. Lizzy, I'm so sorry that there has been unkindness directed to your family. I have nothing but admiration for how you have all stepped up to meet the challenges from Stephanie and Christian's accident. So many people have been praying for their recovery, and I know that I would not have been one of those people, unless you and Courtney had told their story. I did not know about Nie Nie's blog until after the accident. I can't imagine what anyone could say to be unkind, because your family has been incredible! So sorry that you experienced this. I will continue to pray your family.
    Jeana in Illinois

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  44. We are seeming words apart geographically, politically and religiously. I a New York, socially liberal Jewish woman who I don't believe has ever met a member of the Mormon faith and I am drawn to the faith and strength that you and your extended family bring to life. It reminds me that in the end we are all simply human and have much more in common than we have differences. I too have experienced horrors in my life -- different experiences for sure but, ones that ripped me to my core...and I have learned that perspective is everything.

    I hope in some small way that as you move through this horror you gain strength from the fact that you have brought some measure of peace and strength to others. For that I am grateful and thank you.

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  45. People who would do that just do not 'get it'. It is sad for them--to not know the love that your family shares and that your followers feel for your family. Instead of being uplifted perhaps they are jealous--or just plain clueless. We can only pray that one day they can know the peace and joy that your family has inspired in the rest of us. Thank you so much, Lizzy, and all of your family. You are an inspiration to me....to all of us, I believe.

    Shirley in Tampa

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  46. I did not discover Stephanie's blog until after the accident and through all the links found you and all the other family members. I have been shocked and ashamed reading some of the comments people have posted. For anybody outside of your family to feel that they have any right to judge anything your family has done is complete nonsense. Until they have been in your shoes, and not even then, they have no right to judge.

    I would like to thank you and your family for your kindness in sharing this trial with all of us. It has helped me to become a stronger mother, wife, sister, and person. You have all been such examples of strength and your faith in the Gospel is truly amazing!

    I wish you all the best and I hope that your family can return to a somewhat normal state soon. I am so happy to hear of the progress being made by Stephanie and Christian. I can't imagine the joy your family must feel. Thank you again!

    P.S. I love the food recipes on your other blog. They look delicious!

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  47. I know this is the 3rd time I've commented on my OWN blog but I hope you all know how much I appreciate your positive, uplifting and thoughtful comments. THIS is what I love about bloggers. Thank you for being the kind of people that make blogging the happy outlet we all need in our lives. I love all of you!

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  48. We still pray for you ALL. I have fallen in love with all the Clarks and the Nielsons. You are all so kind, so loving, and such a wonderful example of how families can be. I wish my family would be that close. I'm sorry people have been mean. I know you said something before and I hope the mean ones will go away.

    Hooray for Ollie getting to be with you guys for a while. Have fun!!

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  49. The Clark's and Nielson are a inspiration to so many. You all show such love and goodness. You all show your faith and share it so openly with such kind hearts. I am so sad that people are not nice and I pray they find goodness within themselves to be better people.
    Vanessa

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  50. People are so rude! I think you all are amazing and doing a great job! We love you and hope you know that we are praying for your family.

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  51. Liz,

    They are freaks...who cares about them?! As my dad likes to say, "Just be glad you're not married to them!"

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  52. Liz,

    Just watched the video of the girls singing at the concert...I am in tears. What angels! What a blessing that Stephanie is getting better, and will be with them again. No wonder she fought so hard to live. With kids like that, you'd never want to spend a minute away from them. Love ya.

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  53. Lizzy I have been following your sister-in-laws story since just after the accident. It's so hard to believe anyone could find anything bad about your beautiful wonderful families. I am so sorry you have had that extra unnecessary burden during this time. I hope you all know my family is praying for you all.

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  54. i literally ache watching that video. it breaks my heart people could be anything less than supportive.

    and nienie's post that you referenced? my ABSOLUTE favorite. i have it bookmarked on my reader so i will remember to do it with my kids when they get a little older :-)

    all my best.

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  55. I totally agree with you and people who leave annonymous comments are true cowards.

    I am so sorry people have left mean comments to you and/or your family.

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  56. I'm so sorry people are mean. Your family seems wonderful. There are so many of us who are in awe of how giving and close you all are. You are truly and inspiration. Prayers and blessings to you sweet people.

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  57. Hey, most of the time I don't comment (as most other commentors say it better) but I'm with you on the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything". Why people would take the time and effort just to hurt peoples feelings is totally beyond me. I also think that people reading along get involved in the story and forget that it's actually much more personal for the people writing - like some asking cjane if it wouldn't be better if all the kids were together, or asking for details on Stephanie's injuries. Unfortunately there are people who are this nosey and crass in real life so I can't just blame. annonimity

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  58. in life, the one thing we are all entitled to is an opinion. this of course, does not make it right. some people exercise this right without thinking, looking forward to see the long term affect and generally, perhaps with igorance, do not know any better.

    i have been following cjanes blog and found you via her. your families story reaches far & wide....i am writing from canada. it is truly a story of hope & true inspiration. something we all need in our lives thru these trying time. thank you

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  59. So sorry to hear of anything negative being written about you and your extended family. Since devouring Nie and CJane's blog (started after the accident) I feel I've become more open minded. Honestly, I was a bit judgmental about the Mormon religion - what with Big Love and stuff.But opening my mind and my heart has given me a new perspective, I have no judgement AT ALL about the way you and your family choose to worship. Actually, I find it beautiful and inspiring. Keep doing what you're doing, it gives us all hope!

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  60. Lizzy, I (along with so many others) have been soooo blessed by your family and the blogs you guys post. I found Stephanie's blog, then Courtney's, then yours, now Matt's....I can't get enough of the love, faith and support you all share with each other! I hate to think of myself as a "reality" junkie, but I can't help but learn SO much for you all! Not only have I been inspired to follow the Nielson's recovery, to learn from Stephanie's wonderful mothering, you all have inspired me to check the discipline I have with my personal faith in Jesus, you've inspired me to want to be a stay-at-home mom even though I can't right now, you've inspired me to investigate the LDS faith and see what it's all about....the list goes on and on! I've shared the blog links with my friends and urged them to read about the love and support you guys show each other on a daily basis.

    I agree with some of the other comments that noted negative post-ers are just there to get a little attention, and I feel they comment because of their own insecurities. Maybe they'll learn to love more one of these days instead of just drawing random inaccurate conclusions.

    Thank you so much for all that you and your family do for so many of us! I look forward to continuing to be part of your family's healing, even if only over the internet. You all are a TRUE blessing and I can't help but visualize God smiling down on you all as you melt the hearts of many people on His earth!

    Kelly

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  61. dear lizzy,

    i just read through all the comments. i was so shocked to read on your, and alice's blog, that people have left mean comments. (also, on the amazing Nie cookie baker's blog whose pumpkin cookies we made the other night) i didn't see those comments but am truly shocked to hear it. like most of us who've written here, i found you via the links here and there and have "met" Nie, cjane, the Clarks, Nielsons, etc. since their accident. I've been drawn in to both your families, participated in my own small way in the fundraising (I live in FL), read all of you daily and feel like I'm part of something big here - - as in, in the 'heavenly' realm. I ache for Stephanie and Christian, have been blessed by everything I've read, have been encouraged and inspired (really) by all of you, in your own, unique ways - and think that the blessings that this tragedy has spawned are magnificent and awesome. You, Alice and Cjane are beautiful, strong women as are the rest of your family that we don't "read" and I cannot imagine the audacity of someone to leave harsh or negative comments. I know I would be stung by them as well but I encourage you to take Stephanie's advice and not ALLOW it to bother you OR change the way you blog. I so appreciate the glimpses into your family that you allow us and truly, your faith inspires me and I'm a Christian too.

    I'm glad Ollie is staying on for a while - what a blessing and I have to say something superficial: you are so pretty! All you LDS women seem to be gorgeous. What's up with that?!

    Anyway, take heart. You're loved.

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  62. I've been thinking about it, and I can't even imagine what mean things one might say - and I have the capacity for meanness. I just literally can't even think of anything to say.

    Something like this? "Wow, you all are such jerks for being a great example of a family coming together in a tough time. How rude."

    Or, "I was hoping everyone would have an un-inspirational day today, and be pushed down instead of lifted up, so you all really blew that for me by inspiring thousands of people."

    Or, "Wow, thanks a lot for being the first Mormon(s) many people have ever encountered, and doing a dang good job as a representative. We should probably just keep the Church to ourselves."

    LOL. Sorry to make light of people hurting your feelings, but... screw 'em. ((hug))

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  63. Wow I just have to comment to be the 64th person...64 comments! That's a record!

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  64. I am going to be the 65th person. I can't say anything that hasn't already been said. So I will just tell you one more time, I think you and your family are totally AMAZING!! YOU are beautiful Lizzy!!!

    Becka

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  65. When you get a "bad" message, I hope you will just remind yourself that it has nothing whatsoever to do with you. People who leave such comments are clearly dealing with their own issues, projecting their own dysfunction out into the world.

    As for you and your family, you are projecting LOVE into the world. Keep at it! We all need it!!

    (BTW, yesterday I sent the newspaper article about the Nielson sisters to my siblings, including my brother. We all had a good cry about it and agreed that we've always been there for each other, too, and always will be.) It was a good opportunity for us to verbalize that.

    You are all making a positive difference in the world, every one of you. Thanks!

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  66. i LOVE your blog and your sister's and your sister-in-laws. It is only unhappy, sad. disgruntled people who feel the need to say mean things. I've never quite understood it. It is not as if they are being forced to read anyone's blog. But, oh well. Just know that most (99%) of us love you and your family!

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  67. I just watched that video, of the girls singing, WOW, what an amazing experience! It just brought tear to my eyes!! Thanks for sharing it! Keep on doing what your doing! Your all a wonderful family!

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  68. I caught a couple of those negative comments on Alice's blog and on Courtney's- I am so sorry that happened. People do need to learn to be nice.

    Just wanted you to know that I appreciate that are all still continuing to share your blogs with us. It takes a lot of courage to do that after somebody says something mean. I don't have that courage which is one (of several) reasons my blog is private. But props to you!

    I love your style, I love your outlook and I will keep reading long after Christian and Stephanie's "saga" has settled down.

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  69. I have found myself thinking of Stephanie, Christian, the children and the rest of their families too many times to count throughout the days. When reading that Christian was released from the hospital I mentally cheered---when reading that Stephanie was 'out of the woods' I cried with joy and thankfulness.

    The blogs---before the accident and since--have blessed my life more than I can ever explain. I am saddened to read that there have been mean hearted comments---but I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

    I'm sorry that your family has been the target of some people's hate and anger-----not hating or angry at you----just at life and always seeking someone to aim their poisonous negativity towards.

    Thank you so much for continuing to share with us.

    May God's blessings continue to blanket your entire family.

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  70. You have a wonderful and loving family. I am in awe of your closeness and commitment to your faith. I read Stephanie and Jane's blog every day. I find them truly uplifting and heart felt. I will be forever changed. I am a better mother and wife because of their willingness to share their story. Thank you so much for the daily updates. You and your family are truly inspiring.

    Lisa from Virginia

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  71. what a great post lizzy! i can't believe that someone would write mean things about christian and stephanie - seriously that is just cruel.

    i have learned so much from stephanie, stephanie and christian, and both of their families. their story has been inspiring and has opened up my heart to many more things. i will be forever grateful for this. :)

    and the video of claire and jane is the cutest thing i have ever seen on a video. i just love how beautiful they both are and especially the 'what!' made me laugh out loud! what brave girls :)

    ah - your family is amazing. thank you for making my day.

    much love from sweden,
    senja

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  72. I'm so sorry you've had some nasty commenters. I get it too and it really hurts my feelings...but I pretend it doesn't.


    I have to keep the anonymous function on my site, otherwise my grandma won't be able to comment. For me, one of her comments is worth 20 mean ones.

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  73. You are the most popular girl I know! Look at all your followers!!!

    People are stupid - if they have time to think of mean things to say to you (or your fam) then they don't have enough TO DO WITH THEIR LIFE - and they should get one! For reals!

    Anyway, I love you and think you guys are amazing! We sill pray for you guys!

    Have fun with the 5K - you are amazing! Let me know when you get back and we can finish the chairs!

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  74. I just found your blog today via CJane and have spent a few hours delving into it. You have amazing style and are an inspiration (especially with regards to kitchen skills!). I'm sorry for the negative comments you have received and hope that no more will come. You're awesome and keep going!

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  75. Thank you a million times for posting the video of the girls singing!! That was the best concert I have ever seen girlies!! Great job! Your mommy will be so proud of you!

    Claire looks like Stephanie and Jane looks like Christian standing there! Too sweet!

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  76. Oh Lizzy, these past few months have been such an emotional rollercoaster for all of you. We have prayed for all of you so much. I am sorry some creeps feel the need to be mean or unkind or thoughtless in their approach. The world is full of knuckleheads sometimes I suppose.

    Please accept our thanks and gratitude for sharing your families intimate moments with all of us. You never asked for fame, it fell in your lap through the kindness of Stephanie. It has let us get to know all of you and I am glad for that. It's not just Stephanie that's special in your family. I think it has a lot to do with your religious convictions, and that's a great testimony!

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  77. I love the happy fortunes post... I copied that exact post and my girls and i made happy fortunes to leave around the city of Brisbane Australia.. it was so much fun.. I am so inspired by nienie

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  78. I have been prayering for months for you and your family. I cannot believe that others would leave negative comments and not instantly want to pray and help you and your family. There are people out there who cannot say anything nice and so therefore as the old saying goes... should say nothing at all. Your blog is simply amazing, your family is even more amazing. I do not know you guys personally but have fallen in love with your family. Hoping and praying that someday I can have a family of my own that is half as amazing as your own. God bless and soo sorry people are leaving awful and unneccesary comments! The video of the girls singing brought tears to my eyes! Where can I purchase a cd by Mindy Gledhill? Also, do the proceeds go to the Nie recovery? Have a wonderful and blessed weekend!

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  79. It says more about the person who would write something negative than it does about the recipient and/or intended target. And to do it anonymously? Cowardly.

    In any event, the rest of us continue in our prayers and wishes for healthy, happiness, peace and joy to the Nielson and Clark families.

    (By the way - love! love! LOVE the food blog)

    Kathi, a non-anonymous sort of person :-)

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  80. First, the good....I can't tell you how much JOY I just got looking at those pics of Ollie with his cousins and thoughts of him with Mr. Nielson-yeah!, and you two snuggling. Just such a happy, peaceful feeling after mos. of anxiety! Deep breathe...just a slice of relief after these mos. Just can't wait until you ALL are together again.

    Second, "the meanies"...remember back in elementary school...the "mean girls" the "bully boys"...some people just don't grow out of it. Some people are probably envious of your family (yes, even in the situation you found yourselves in) because of your unshakeable faith, the love you have for one another, the worldwide support you have, your ability to find rays of joy and gratitude in difficult trails. Some people don't have that, don't understand that...and that's sad for them. BUT, not an excuse to bring you all down, to judge, comment, criticize, etc. I often feel like in this country...can't we just let others LIVE how they would like? Why do we always think WE are right? A tangent there....but basically, it goes back to "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all"...the lesson we learned in kindergarten. Or should have.

    I have often found the best method to silence "meanies"...ignore...and live your life, your beliefs, etc. even LOUDER. Don't give it another thought. Not worth your energy.

    Sending thoughts of healing and peace! And Happy HalloweeNIE!

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  81. Amen to that. I had the displeasure of reading some of the ugly comments left on CJane earlier this week. I was very upset and confused as to why any one would spend their time saying such hurtful, terrible things. I even typed out a couple of snarky responsed, but decided not to publish them because it would perpetuate the problem. I can only imagine that the person(s) who leave those comments have never known the goodness the exists in the Clark and Nielson family and their natural thought process is negative as a result. I am so glad you spoke up with this post. Good for you.

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  82. I'm so sorry for the un-friendly comments. I can't believe "some" people can be so unkind. I can't think of anything unkind about your family or Stephanie's family. If anything, I'm stand amazed at how strong and positive you all ARE!
    God Bless!
    Oliver looks so happy!

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  83. hi, just feeling a little sad for the unkindnesses said and wanted to say I'm sorry, because it usually feels a little bit better when SOMEBODY apologizes! Actually, this is my first visit here though I read Nie Nie and C Jane. Would simply echo that you are a precious family- and also say that in blogland, sometimes people's lives do look nicely packaged even when things are difficult and I think folks forget that the hard stuff sincerely is HARD. Praying for you all.

    with love from Ireland,
    Tara

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  84. Thanks for speaking up! The fact that people would be so unkind is appalling! Keep your head up. You are a wonderful person with a wonderful family. I am thankful for your continued updates about Christian, Nie, and the Kids as well as your own life.

    Your family is in my prayers as always!

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  85. I can't believe that anyone could pick apart something so lovely as your family and say such awful things! For shame.
    I have been stalking your delightful blog from cjane ever since the accident (we have the same taste in color scheme!), but I have been a devoted reader of Nie Nie for a long time. I have said it before, and I will say it again: You all personify what is Christlike and what is real. You all inspire me to be kinder and gentler and more humble each day. I feel so blessed to "know" you, to pray and fast in your behalf, to put your names on the temple roll. It is an honor and a privilege to serve your family in these small ways.
    Only good things your way from my neck of the woods!

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  86. When I was a very small girl, my parents were friends with two couples whom they loved like family. They were Ned and Amy Armstrong and Jack and Ada Thomas. Seeing the picture of Ollie and his cousin Jack reminded me of this. Your grandparents were grand people! You all have inherited their strength.

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  87. It makes my heart sad that people are causing you pain in this already trying and painful time. You are definitely handling this situation with grace--very Nie-esque! Our prayers are with you and you family.

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  88. It's easy for the cowardly "anonymous" commentors to say hurtful things on the outside looking in. I have discovered that unless I am in that particular person's shoes I ahve no reason to judge, no reason to comment. You and your family have been an inspiration to me and I will forever be thankful for your outpouring of love towards your family members. I would hope that my family would be the same if I were in that situation. Thank you for being a shining example of what a family is. My heart and prayers are with you always!!!

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  89. you are very articulate! all I can say is "some people" I like to think I'm classy - but it would take a lot for me not to deck someone criticizing anyone in your family. ughhh.

    Anyway - I'm a stranger - but I love you guys!

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